Being an introvert in a society is tough. You’re forced to be around people and in noisy circumstances in some situations when you’d rather be someplace quiet and low-key. You hate being center of attention and prefer solitude and reflection to the chaotic activity of most situations. Psychology icon Carl Jung points out that you don’t have a lot of confidence in your social skills, but you’re perfectly happy to be alone.
So when the day comes that you meet that special someone that you want to marry, the prospect of a big ceremony with lots of family and friends might seem extremely daunting. Between the planning, the wedding party, the reception, and being the center of attention, there are a lot of undesirable things that come along with this desirable event!
How can you marry the person of your dreams and not freak out in the process? Read on for tips to help you survive the happiest day of your life!
Remember Whose Wedding This Is
There are two parallel ideas to remembering who the wedding is for, and keeping both in mind can help establish control well before the wedding. The first is that it is the bride and groom’s day, because they are the ones being celebrated. The other is that it is a day for the families to show their love and support as they are joined by the bride and groom. Both of these views are correct, so the challenge for the introverted bride or groom is to balance them. Many brides fall into the trap of allowing family members or friends too much input on how the wedding should be, and for introverted brides this can put a lot of pressure that will wind up leading to overwhelming you at your wedding. You are allowed to nix ideas you don’t like, so make sure you put your foot down as far as how you and your partner want things. Keep in mind, though, that you need to honor the guests who have come to be there for you.
Because there is so much to plan, so many venues and services to talk to, and so many friends and family that might need to be communicated with, even extroverted brides find themselves overwhelmed. It is a common myth that the bride has to be in charge of planning the wedding. There is absolutely nothing wrong with handing the planning to a trusted friend or family member who understands you. You want to be able to enjoy your big day,not be exhausted from planning and implementing it.
You Don’t HAVE To Walk Down the Aisle
…or do anything else that requires you to be in the spotlight, if you prefer not to. Many brides have taken to walking down the aisle with the groom so that intimate “first look” isn’t in front of everybody. The “sweetheart” table, which sits only the bride and groom, is becoming a thing of the past as well, with more couples opting to sit at a larger table with family or the wedding party. The first dance is also something that many couples are not doing as much as couples used to, especially those who do not have confidence in their dancing skills.
Plan Time Between Wedding and Reception
The wedding ceremony has a lot of pressure attached to it. This is the big moment, what the celebration afterward is celebrating! Since there is really no way out of the spotlight here, one of the best ways to cope with it is to leave some time between the ceremony and the reception. This is even helpful if your ceremony is more intimate than your reception, which is another approach introverted couples take. Leaving time in between can help you recharge yourself before having to face the reception. Make sure you have a couple of trusted friends or family members to politely keep others away so you can have this space. This also applies to scheduling the whole event - if you are a morning person, make sure the reception ends early, too!
Find a Secluded Spot
Even during the wedding or reception, there is nothing wrong with ducking into an alcove or hallway to take a moment to collect yourself. The day is going to be hectic, and taking an intimate moment with your partner, a close friend, or by yourself to do something as simple as hiding behind a tree away from the rest of the party can go a long way toward re-energizing you for the rest of the day. Even though it is a happy, positive event, it will still be exhausting, especially for the couple.
Planning a wedding is all about celebrating the bride and groom in a way that makes them both comfortable. Even if you are an introvert and being crowds are not your thing, you can still have your dream wedding. Following the above tips can make your special day memorable in a way that will bring a smile to your face in your future alone time!
This was a guest post by Cassie Brewer.
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