Do you feel like everywhere you turn someone is getting engaged over the holidays?
Well, it turns out that close to 40 percent of engagements occur during the time between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day. After all, the holidays provide a romantic backdrop for popping the question. This has led to what we know as “engagement season.” While the bright lights and celebrations make asking someone to marry you extra special, finding the right time or way to ask the big question can be difficult. Thankfully, there is no wrong way to propose, but there are a few do’s and don’ts to keep in mind over the holidays. If you are thinking of getting down on one bended knee over, we have created a guide to help you unwrap the perfect holiday proposal.
Listed below are the do’s and don’ts of proposing during the holidays to make your moment merry and bright:
Make it meaningful. If you choose to propose during the holidays look to a sentimental moment for inspiration. Re-examine noteworthy relationship moments like the night you first met, the place you went on your first date, where you shared your first kiss or the time you first whispered, “I love you.” Build on those feelings to create the foundation for your proposal and add flowers, dim lights, or candles to tailor the perfect holiday proposal to your relationship.
Avoid trends. While it is tempting to propose in a fancy new restaurant, we need to think long-term. Far too often these businesses close or move to new locations. If you want to return to the site of the proposal during future anniversaries, consider proposing in a place that will never go out of style. Some safe options include historical sites, special family locations, or outdoor parks.
Keep it secret. Far too often, friends and family spill your plans and ruin any hopes of a surprise. Avoid oversharing and keep everyone on a need-to-know basis. If you do need an accomplice, choose a reliable helper to help keep your intended in the dark. After the proposal and a yes, share the happy news with others.
Consider your schedules! Before proposing, take a few minutes and think about what your partner will be doing before or after. Most people want their proposal to be romantic and special, which makes it essential you avoid moments where your partner is wearing sweatpants, dirty clothes, or is coming back from a procedure at the dentist office. Thoughtful planning can make your holiday proposal stand out as a swoon-worthy event.
Have a “Plan B” in your pocket. We all know Murphy’s Law, the idea that what can go wrong will. While planning your perfect holiday proposal carefully consider a backup plan. This will prevent bad weather, traffic, or other surprises from ruining the moment. After all, we want to craft a memorable moment that we can share for years to come.
Plan your words. You don’t want a scripted and stiff proposal, so make sure you have a general idea of what you want to say in your head. This will avoid a clumsy delivery while allowing you to craft a heartfelt moment.
Don’t come empty-handed. If we had to narrow down the most significant engagement mistake, it would be when there is no ring. You are requesting a lifetime commitment, so don’t show up empty-handed. Many jewelry stores will allow you exchange a ring or resize one if it doesn’t fit correctly. Also, don’t rule out using an heirloom to use as a placeholder so you can go shopping for rings together later.
Avoid public proposals. Even though we have witnessed countless proposals over large screens at sporting events or concerts, not everyone enjoys these grand scale declarations. Avoid an audience and make it an intimate affair between just the two of you. This will prevent rude spectators, embarrassing reactions, resentment, or the need to rush through the moment.
Remember to plan for what comes afterward. Time doesn’t come to a stop right after the proposal. Think ahead and plan a romantic celebration afterward. Keep the momentum going with a celebratory bottle of champagne, an intimate evening at home, or join a party to share the big news with friends and family.
Let your families know BEFORE posting on social media. Parents and close friends don’t want to find out about your proposal on Snapchat or Facebook. Avoid sharing your wedding news until after everyone has been told in person.
And after she says yes, see here on how to create your wedding invitations.
This was a guest post by Cassie Brewer.
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